Shame and sex addiction are inextricably linked. The sex addict feels a great deal of shame during and after his sexual acting out behaviors, whether he is aware of it or not. Shame emerges during counselling sessions, particularly when we discuss sexual acting out behaviors. This article's goal is to explain the connection between shame and sex addiction.

Avoidance at work

At times, the shame can be so overwhelming that the first instinct is to avoid. The vast majority of sex addicts will avoid by focusing on the pleasure. If he feels ashamed after an orgasm, he may act out sexually again to avoid the shame.

As a result, a self-perpetuating downward cycle of sexual acting out and shame emerges. The sex addict feels ashamed when he acts out sexually. Sexual acting out is used to cope with shame. He is in a difficult situation with no way out. He may try to flee shame, like a Chinese finger trap, only to relapse into addictive behavior to alleviate the pain of shame.

Recovery

Recognise that sex addiction recovery is possible. The speed with which counselling is provided is critical. Not too quick, not too slow. Talk about shame in therapy for as long as you can stand it. It takes a lot of guts to show up and express yourself honestly.

Know that help is available

If you identify with article, know that help is available. Sex addiction can be managed. You can live a meaningful and purposeful life.

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